I’ll always remember my first massage teacher, I am still reminded often of his advice.
“Always appear and sound confident”
If you’ve ever left your oil bottle just out of reach or been distracted and lost track of your Bowen sequence (yes folks, it still happens!) don’t let your clients hear you say “oops” under your breath. The key message here is that it is not how confident we appear but how confident we actually are.
Over the years, I’ve received dozens of questions from other therapists which led me to the realisation that there is a lack of confidence as well as an over confidence amongst some practitioners.
For example; “What Bowen moves could be used to help a lady with lymphoedema in both legs?”
I’d reply “What is the cause of the lymphoedema, is it primary or secondary?”
The reply “I don’t know what that means.”
Okay… time to refer on. Develop your network to include therapists who can fill in the gaps in the service that you provide.
In another situation, I recently had the question: “What treatment could I provide for someone with end-stage kidney failure?”
I’d reply “What are you trying to achieve?”
We should never overtax a fragile client in an attempt to provide comfort.
Both of these examples are an example of an over-confidence. Without effective training, we’re not equipped to have that level of confidence. Once we understand all of the risks involved, we can adapt what we do and experience being confident in our decisions.
In psychology the four stages of competence are described as follows:
Unconscious incompetence Conscious incompetenceConscious competenceUnconscious competence
Simply put, unconscious incompetence is when we don’t know, what we don’t know. I know that seems like a bit of a mouthful but this level of understanding is exhibited in the above questions.
Conscious incompetence is where we have an awareness of being out of our depth. We have an awareness that there is more to this than we understand. Inherently, this is where we experience a lack of confidence.
Whereas, conscious competence is where we have an understanding of what is going on and how we need to approach the problem.
Finally, unconscious competence is where we can be competent without even trying.
Ultimately, I would suggest that in our service towards our clients, we are to be consciously competent. We should remain in the present and be mindful of every action we conduct. Only with a broader understanding of these concepts can we become consciously competent!!
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